Acknowledge the situation and understand how your internalized thoughts are sabotaging your chances of living a fulfilled and happy life. Once you are aware of how your mind misleads you into feelings of insecurity, it’s easier to control and redirect your feelings.

1.承認自己目前的境遇，理解自己的內化思想是如何妨礙你過上滿足幸福的生活的。一旦你意識到你的大腦是如何誤導你陷入一種不安全感，你就能更加容易得控制和改變你的感覺了。

Look around you and assess what kind of people you have in your life. Are they the right people Do they make you feel good Remember you’re the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with. Cease contact with anyone in your life who reinforces your feelings of insecurity.

2.審視你的周圍，評估一下你生活中都有哪種類型的人。他們是合適的人嗎？他們讓你感覺很好嘛？記住每五個人里面就有一個人與你在一起的時間最長。不要再和那些你的生活中增加你不安全感的人聯系。

Whip out a flip chart and try to map out where in your life these feelings started coming up. Try to get to the origin of the feelings. Was it something in your childhood A bad relationship An overbearing boss at work

3.拿出一張表格，試著畫出這些不安全感在你生活中開始出現的地方。盡量找出不安全感的根源。是你小時候的事情嗎？不好的關系？工作中霸道的老板？

Make a plan to confront the origin of the thoughts. If it was a parent or friend, sit down and have a talk with them about how their behavior damaged you for instance. Of course, this isn’t always possible and sometimes in life, you simply cannot retrace your steps. In this case, write it down in a journal instead.

4.做一個計劃來面對這些思想的起源。如果是來自父母之一或者朋友，你可以坐下來和他們談談他們的行為是如何傷害你的，舉例來說。當然，這并不是總能實現，有時候在你的生活中，你僅僅是不能追溯你的腳步。這種情況下，可以在你的日志中寫出來。

On another flip chart, write down all the things you’ve succeeded at. Your accomplishments and where you’ve made a difference. The more you note down, the more your level of confidence soars. Put this flip chart in a place where you can see it every day, and remind yourself you’re an awesome and amazing person. Every time you achieve something, add it to the list.

5.在另一個表格中，寫下所有你成功做到的事情。你的成就，以及取得成就的地方。你寫得越多，你的自信心水平增長得越多。把這張表格放在你每天能看到的地方，提醒你自己是很優秀的厲害人物。每次你取得一項成功，就添加到表格上去。

Acknowledge the situation and understand how your internalized thoughts are sabotaging your chances of living a fulfilled and happy life. Once you are aware of how your mind misleads you into feelings of insecurity, it’s easier to control and redirect your feelings.

1.承認自己目前的境遇，理解自己的內化思想是如何妨礙你過上滿足幸福的生活的。一旦你意識到你的大腦是如何誤導你陷入一種不安全感，你就能更加容易得控制和改變你的感覺了。

Look around you and assess what kind of people you have in your life. Are they the right people Do they make you feel good Remember you’re the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with. Cease contact with anyone in your life who reinforces your feelings of insecurity.

2.審視你的周圍，評估一下你生活中都有哪種類型的人。他們是合適的人嗎？他們讓你感覺很好嘛？記住每五個人里面就有一個人與你在一起的時間最長。不要再和那些你的生活中增加你不安全感的人聯系。

Whip out a flip chart and try to map out where in your life these feelings started coming up. Try to get to the origin of the feelings. Was it something in your childhood A bad relationship An overbearing boss at work

3.拿出一張表格，試著畫出這些不安全感在你生活中開始出現的地方。盡量找出不安全感的根源。是你小時候的事情嗎？不好的關系？工作中霸道的老板？

Make a plan to confront the origin of the thoughts. If it was a parent or friend, sit down and have a talk with them about how their behavior damaged you for instance. Of course, this isn’t always possible and sometimes in life, you simply cannot retrace your steps. In this case, write it down in a journal instead.

4.做一個計劃來面對這些思想的起源。如果是來自父母之一或者朋友，你可以坐下來和他們談談他們的行為是如何傷害你的，舉例來說。當然，這并不是總能實現，有時候在你的生活中，你僅僅是不能追溯你的腳步。這種情況下，可以在你的日志中寫出來。

On another flip chart, write down all the things you’ve succeeded at. Your accomplishments and where you’ve made a difference. The more you note down, the more your level of confidence soars. Put this flip chart in a place where you can see it every day, and remind yourself you’re an awesome and amazing person. Every time you achieve something, add it to the list.

5.在另一個表格中，寫下所有你成功做到的事情。你的成就，以及取得成就的地方。你寫得越多，你的自信心水平增長得越多。把這張表格放在你每天能看到的地方，提醒你自己是很優秀的厲害人物。每次你取得一項成功，就添加到表格上去。